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What Are You Hanging Onto?

Whether it's social media stardom or the next viral marketing campaign, your identity can easily be sucked in.  You may ask what does it matter?  It matters much.  Examine where your identity rests and you'll know what you're hanging onto.

The greatest artists, thinkers, and entrepreneurs are the ones who have a graceful indifference to their craft.  By that I mean they pour themselves out not thinking of what may come next.  It's beautiful to observe.

Maybe they're content to let eternity judge the quality or significance of their work.  It really doesn't matter...see Steve Jobs, Miles Davis, Nelson Mandela or Mother Teresa here for a flesh example.

The answer to this post's question is nothing.

Hang onto nothing and change the world.

Don't Be Charmed By Security

Even with the economic conditions here in the States, specifically the employment situation, many still seem to be charmed by security.  I'm alluding to security in the form of career/work.  Now certainly, some have all but concluded that security is a myth.  But I find many career/work pilgrims are disturbed by current trends.

I used to be in that group, but am now a freak of the not-so-weird variety.  Why?  I entered my period of mass disruption almost 4 years ago.  Back then many felt certain about the future.  Now...

Well, let's face it, life (all things in) has never been certain.  And that's part of our problem.  We bought the marketing message of "too big to fail."  I know we're better off with a sense of not taking anything for granted.  Especially since that's the way business and life were supposed to be conducted/lived.  Leaders of the highly developed nature know this to be true.

We just haven't done a good job at handling success and good times.

Now's the time to embrace uncertainty and insecure times.  Watch your values shift and find out what right alignment is all about.  I think the following might open up for you:

1. God knows what he's doing.
2. Family and relationships trump everything but #1.
3. You don't need as much as you think (trust me, the economy will be ok).
4. You'll demand more of your organization.  For example, your paid for your results, not your time.
5. Taking a pay cut in order to do something impacting will seem right as rain.

The Problem With Small Getting Large

One of my favorite merchants in the town I live in, is not one of my favorites anymore.

They once were small and engaging, but now world domination seems to be the order of the day.  No more "we'll search and see if we can get it" or "haven't seen you in the store lately."  I miss being Eric to them. 

The problem with some entrepreneurs is they are trying to fill a void by being "uber-successful."  What is forgotten is what get's left behind-the customer.

By the way, the void above is rarely filled by getting large. 

I'm appreciating small these days.

The Calling-Red Pill Versus Blue Pill

Came across this post (via Dan Schawbel on Twitter) from Yahoo Hot Jobs and felt inspired to include the video clip above.  It's from the Matrix.  The classic scene between Morbius and Neo, where a pill of blue and a pill of red are offered to Neo.  Essentially, stay dead with the blue or wake up with the red.

My intention here is to alert you to #5 on the list from Yahoo.  I totally disagree with the writer's assertion that not everyone is called to something.  Granted, some may not know, some might have forgotten or some may be trying to kill it.  But everyone has a calling.

Sadly, we live in a culture that stands in opposition to your calling.

God weaved the vision in you and I.  The crux is what we allow "the Matrix" to take away or kill.  Every story is hinged on this conflict.

There Are Many Reasons Why God Is Opposed To The Proud

Maybe you have heard the statement, or read the bible verse, about God being opposed to the proud.  Well, here are some reasons in our day and time that helps us understand why:

1. Proud people don't give a _____ about you and I.
2. Proud people tend to always want the credit.
3. Proud people can not be trusted.
4. If you're willing to listen, proud people will show their cards pretty quickly.
5. Proud people will try to explain their dysfunction away.
6. Proud people believe their humble.
7. Proud people have a low reservoir of sympathy.
8. Proud people are in your corner-when you're winning.
9. Proud people aways see others as inferior.
10. Proud people die lonely and alone.

Next time you engage with a person full of pride, tell them God is on defense.

By the way, pride is always knocking on your door.  Be careful.

Updates and Such

Thought I would inform you all of my wanderings:

• Been working on a new model (for me anyway) to venture into.  Totally unrelated to Epic Living, except it has the "help" element.  Been a struggle and has taken longer than I expected.  I undertook this new venture to help stop the financial bleeding that Epic Living has been experiencing since the beginning of 2009.  Yes, I am not immune to the perfect storms of the American economy.
• Been grieving more deeply about my dad and his absence.  This one is ongoing.  Can't deny the void, and I don't quite see what will grow from that right now. 
• Trying to re-learn some of my family leadership roles.
• Learning the heart of being-leadership versus doing-leadership.  A contrarian art if there ever was one.
• Learning every day not to take anything for granted.  Seems that God really wants me to understand this.  My dealings with living and dying have awakened this sleeping giant.  I'm waking up every day looking for the gifts given from above, and then act upon them, even when they break my heart, don't make sense or cause me to be afraid.
• Learning more about the honesty of wine-really.

More to come...

Corrupt Instincts and Leadership

Sometimes those involved in people leadership are like those in social media consulting, it seems like everyone thinks they can do it.  But, alas, not everyone can.  There are numerous people out there who have scars to prove my point.  This is a problem.

I came across this post from Ed Batista, someone who has encouraged and informed me, that speaks to leaders who have an arsenal of corrupt instincts.  These types of leaders act on their stressed and vitriol emotions.  Not unlike the spoiled child who always threatens to take his bat on home if you don't play by his pre-set rules. 

I won't give away Ed's insights, but I will give you some insights on what you must do in order to keep your heart and mind from being trampled upon-in any organization.  Here are some things to consider:

1. If you work for a leader that exhibits corrupt instincts, then get out! I know the economy might be bad, I know you may be a year away from vesting, you might even be in denial about what the future will look like if you don't do something.  Regardless, leadership can be a very negative thing and they don't call it influence for nothing.
2. If you will set aside the stars in your eyes from the interview, you might be able to get a clue about the organization's culture.  In other words, does the organization condone and create conditions for corrupt instincts?  Investigate, Investigate, Investigate!
3. Start living on less.  Forget about the new 5 Series from BMW, start putting more money back, or get out of debt.  You may be working for angels today, but things can change and the demons are always at the gate.  Be prepared to protect your soul.
4. Don't go on any journey of awakening (seeing what wasn't evident before) alone.
5. This process will cost you.  But in the end, you'll be able to look back and know it was worth it.  Like me, you could lose your career and find your life.  Pretty cool in the end. 

What I Wanted, What I Got, What I Did

"There are more things in heaven and earth, Horatio, than are dreamt of in your philosophy."

- Shakespeare

As I wrote some time ago, I have been doing more thinking than writing lately.  One of the things I've been pondering is the idea of what one wants from life-specifically what I've wanted.

I've also been thinking about what I've gotten, and what I did in response to the result.

The following are some specifics:

1. I wanted my dad to be around longer for me to fully appreciate our relationship.  Regardless, he passed on unexpectedly and a large comma was placed in my life.  I am relying on the vision God gave me to work through this time.  A type of vision that says: "I don't know how this all will work out, but I trust, even in my deepest blues, that it will."
2. I wanted a linear path in my entrepreneur pursuits.  It has been anything but linear.  I have rolled with it and learned to embrace my disappointments as I do my successes.  Most importantly, things don't need to look like I thought they would in order to be the "right thing."
3. I wanted certain people to stick with me.  Those that took off were only with me for the ride.  As a result, I redefined what friendship really means.
4. I wanted a great career.  I lost my career and found my life.  I am most grateful for this...I can breathe.
5. I wanted to get everything right with my family.  In the last three years, I've gotten much wrong. I  learned  that needing forgiveness creates the art of forgiving.

Looking In The Mirror

The following spoke volumes to me this morning:

I asked God for strength, that I might achieve;
I was made weak, that I might learn to humbly obey.
     I asked for health, that I might do greater things;
     I was given infirmity, that I might do better things.
I asked for riches, that I might be happy;
I was given poverty, that I might be wise.
     I asked for power, that I might have the praise of
            men;
     I was given weakness, that I might feel the need of God.
I asked for all things, that I might enjoy life;
I was given life, that I might enjoy all things.
     I got nothing that I asked for,
     But everything I had hoped for.

I am, among all men, most richly blessed.

    -Author Unknown

Are You OK With The Mistakes?

The thought of mistakes can drive some people nuts-I'm one of them.  Well, I used to be. 

As time has moved on, I've have learned the art of, not only learning, but seeing mistakes as a tool to reinvent.  It has served me well in the following ways:

1. I see risk differently.  If you are unwilling to make mistakes, then you'll avoid risk like a plague.  Risk opens doors that are essential to a life well lived.
2. I minimize my regrets.  This is huge as I pass the half-way mark (or so I think) in life.  I believe in trying and failing-succeeding too. 
3. I gain understanding about "the cost."  There is always an exchange going on.  Whether in career or life, your dealing with costs everyday.  You need to understand what you're purchasing and what you're not.
4. I found out who is truly for me.  Funny how certain environments seem to produce more sycophants than others.  I don't need those who are just hanging out.
5. I need a better memory.  Success can cause you to forget.  This can be fatal-emotionally and mentally.  The best way not to repeat a mistake is to have a good memory of what you went through.
6. I don't want to fall prey to seduction.  The idea that I can go back to something that doesn't fit and work, all in the name of "I'm different now."  Seduction feels good when you hear the voice, but a cruel master when you give in.
7. I want to experience the width of life, not just the length.  A paraphrase of one my favorite quotes, but you can't do this without mistakes course-correcting you.
8. I want to be more successful.
9. I want my kids to learn these principles early.
10. LEFT BLANK FOR YOU.