If you're like me, the fear of what's next is a thought process to be managed. It should be managed and not avoided. Keeping it real means recognizing the fear for what it is. No fake confidence, no dogged determination to ignore, just managing the fear when the visit happens. And it will happen.
A great friend and mentor told me a long time ago that God will give you enough light for the next step-no more and no less. There are many implications and applications with that counsel, but a big one is being in the moment you've been given. There is no greater arrogance that believing you've got more time than what's right in front of you.
Many live like they have a thousand tomorrows.
In my current frame I'm learning and practicing the art of being in the moment and finding contentment in that "enough light for the next step" reality. I've moved from knowing, getting it in my head, to understanding, getting it in my heart. I feel fully alive.
I can't recommend enough the learning of the above.
The context is this, and a paradox it is, the fear of what's next is about our desire to control, to be comfortable and to avoid risk. Very human and very real. Can you really be living while you juggle those three distortions? Your life is found in the unknown and uncharted waters. No other way to find it.